Meningen med vigseln

En väldigt fin text att läsa under en vigsel! (Via A Thoughtful Day)

A very beautiful reading for the ceremony. (Via A Thoughtful Day)

To marry is to form an equal partnership, tied together by the tenuous bonds of emotion and love. It is at once the most fragile of relationships and the strongest. Fragile because it requires exactly the right mix of freedom and inter-dependence, of caring and of sharing, of being together and of being alone. But it is strong because it involves the unseen forces of something we call love - mutual devotion, concern for the happiness of the other, and joy in each other's company. For there is no stronger force involving human relationships that this silent bond love.

Remember that this wedding day is only a symbol, a celebration, a public recognition of what already exists in the silent places of your hearts. It is your marriage and not something created by the state or the Church - it is yours to define, yours to make real, yours to live. Nothing I can say can make it anything more than what already exists in your hearts. Remember also that marriage is a shared relationship, not a matter of possession. It is a means of showing your commitment to one another, not a blind surrendering of personality. It is not an excuse to become limited in your outlook; it is an opportunity for mutual growth.

The Art of a Good Marriage

En jättefin text av Wilferd Arlan Peterson utdrag ur "The Art of a Good Marriage”. ( Via Miss Gingerbread, Weddingbee). Skulle gärna ha en översättning av denna som del av vigseln.

“A good marriage must be created.
In marriage the “little” things are the big things.
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say, “I love you” at least once a day.
It is never going to sleep angry.
It is having a mutual sense of values, and common objectives.
It is standing together and facing the world.
It is forming a circle that gathers in the whole family.
It is speaking words of appreciation, and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is not only marrying the right person — it is being the right partner.”

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Jag vill hålla av dig
utan att hålla fast dig.
Jag vill ha dig
utan att äga dig.
Jag vill älska dig
utan att göra om dig.
Jag vill vara nära dig
utan att kväva dig.
Jag vill ge dig kärlek
utan att ställa krav eller vilkor.
Jag vill ge upp mig jämte dig
utan att gå före, utan att sacka efter.
Jag vill vara din människa på jorden.

Dikt "Måhända"

Måhända är han den ende i världen som tycker sig veta att hon är den underbaraste kvinnan på jorden.

Måhända är hon den ende som uppskattar hur fantastisk han är i varje liten sak han gör och i varje liten tanke.

De tycker sig höra en underton av godhet i allt vad den andre säger och tror att de flesta kanske missar det.

Och de förstår inte hur man kan passera den andre utan att förstå att man just passerat den finaste människan i världen.

Han har förstått, hon har förstått - därför är vi här idag.

Dikt

Now you will feel no rain,
For each of you will be shelter to the other.
Now you will feel no cold,
For each of you will be warmth to the other.
Now there is no more loneliness,
For each of you will be companion to the other.
Now you are two bodies,
But there is only one life before you.
Go now to your dwelling place
To enter into the days of your togetherness
And may your days be good and long upon the earth.

Skriven för filmen Broken Arrow, 1950